The Lincoln Log

For some of us, dating seems almost impossible. Between school life, work and sports, it seems like there is no time to spend on guys. Even if you had time, how do you get him?

I asked several people, guys and girls to see what dating tips work, and what don’t. Out of curiosity, I put everything i know about dating behind and put their advice to the test.

What most people concluded was that pick-up lines don’t work. Now wait a minute, aren’t pick-up lines made to get dates? According to five out of six guys, they don’t. Pick- up lines may make them laugh, but it makes you look desperate and rediculous. Only the idiots fall for corny lines such as,”Boy i should write you a ticket, cus you’re looking fine,fine,fine.” Everyone, guys and girls, save your time and please don’t attempt ever again.

So if pick-up lines don’t work, what does?

Personally, I don’t have time for a serious relationship. With school, work and sports, I don’t have time to get emotionally connected with just one guy. With such a busy schedule, how do i find a guy that’s willing to spend time with me? There’s the big misconception that dating is the same as being in a relationship. In reality, relationships aren’t declared in one day, they take time. Dates aren’t really that hard to get once you put aside the differences.

The simplest approach seems to be the best solution. We’re not stuck in the ice age where only guys could ask out girls anymore, the best way t get him is to ask him out. By doing so, you come off as courageous and bold; he’ll want to hangout with you because you made the effort.

Now, I’m not saying that you should run up to a guy and say,”Hey, I like you, go out with me.” You got to take the time to get to know him. Talk to him, make him ease up. When you’re both happy and calm ask him to hangout with you, suggest the movies or the mall. You don’t have to make it official that you’re “boyfriend and girlfriend,” there’s always that chance that the date may end in failure. Start out from the first date and see what happens from there.

For example, after Octoberfest I was hanging out with a group of friends. We were just hanging out, laughing, talking, dancing and being idiots. I felt like going to see a movie so I asked one of the guys to come with me. We were having such a great time already, so he felt comfortable enough to accept my offer.

He was a sweet guy, he paid for my movie ticket and taught me how to play games in the arcade. Although we learned that I should never play and driving games again, we had fun. We laughed the whole time we were playing games and throughout the Jackass movie. I can’t see myself being in a serious relationship with this guy, but i had an awesome time. It felt relaxing to not have to worry what he was thinking because he wasn’t my boyfriend.

To test the direct approach a second time, I decided to set-up a second date with another guy. Perfect timing, an old guy friend of mine called me on a saturday night. We talked and reminesce of old times. I then created a short sob story, one technique a girl suggested, about how I missed him, and how I hadn’t seen him in over a year. I told him that I wanted to see the new mall and suggested that he should go to it with me the next day. He agreed to come.

That’s two points for the direct approach. We walked around the entire mall, talking and joking. After several hours we eventually got hungry. So we went to lunch at The Cheesecake Factory. I ordered the Calif. Cheese Steak sandwich while he had the Tons of Fun Burger. When the bill came, he handled it like a good date should. Honestly I was a bit impressed because in my opinion guys should always be the one to pay for dates. I’m not saying I want to be with this guy, we’re too good of friends for that, but good friends however, make fun dates.