The Lincoln Log

Living in such a liberal, diverse city like San Francisco, we often absorb the things around us. We are pods with open minds waiting to be molded. Things that we see on a day to day basis aren’t what other people would see growing up in more conservative states. San Francisco is known for its diverse cultures, gays, transsexuals, bisexuals, our amazing pride parades, and just about anything that’s out of the norm for many. I am extremely thankful for being raised in such an open-minded community where anything goes, and nobody is biased towards one another because of their sexual orientation.

Sophomore Destiny Boswell Abraham Lincoln High School is bisexual and her mother is lesbian. I got into an interview with her, and she talked about girls, boys, relationships, sexuality and everything in between.

MZ: Do you check out girls more than guys?

DB: It guess it’s about even, it takes more for me to like a girl though because I have to know them. It’s not about what their looks are. I mean sure, you’re going to see a really hot girl around but I have to really know a girl to like them. When you’re younger it is definitely difficult to find the right girls.

MZ: Would you say you had more girlfriends than boyfriends?

DB: No I’ve had more boyfriends, I was bisexual in 7th grade but I feel like maybe I put more into girlfriends so it lasts longer and it’s more serious, as opposed to a boyfriend for just a week.

MZ: So if you were to be in a relationship with a girl, the life expectancy of it would be longer than a relationship with a guy?

DB: No, I just feel like it’s more serious, and since a lot of people aren’t out yet. It can be both ways, like it can be just as difficult as any other relationship but it is a little bit harder with a girl when you’re younger.

MZ: So do you prefer guys more or girls more?

DB: I date guys more, but I prefer girls more, because I think they’re physically more attractive.

MZ: Do you think guys mind if you’re with a girlfriend on the side, or if you do stuff with a girl while you’re in a relationship with a guy?

DB: I think it’s more forgivable. For some guys, it’s a bonus, but for others, they understand that it’s not just acting. The fact that I actually do like them, and there is a possibility that I could end up leaving them for a girl that freaks them out.

MZ: Do you think your sexuality affects your relationship with guys or with girls?

DB: No, not really, I mean guys make it a big deal sometimes, but not your friends because your friends really don’t care.

MZ: Have you ever faced anyone who didn’t like the fact that you were bisexual?

DB: Actually, I’ve been fortunate enough to never have to interact with them, but there are some people who use it against me. This girl in my middle school said that everybody hated me because I was such a lesbian and I always checked out girls in locker rooms. For one thing, I didn’t date anybody from my school, and we had like 12 girls in my grade so there wasn’t much of a variety. We also didn’t have a locker room.

MZ: So what’d you do when you realized that you were bi?

DB: I think I’ve always known, but I actually started thinking about it in the 7th grade and I was really quick and it scared me kind of. But then me and my friend were playing with a Ouija board and it freaked me out because it practically told me to tell her so she was like the first person I told. She didn’t care. I didn’t tell many people because it wasn’t their business at that point. I told my mom, but she told me I was too young to figure it out, but she was a lesbian, so it was kind of weird for her to be telling me I couldn’t be gay.

MZ: How do you feel about your mom being a lesbian?

DB: It really doesn’t affect me at all, but sometimes when I’m mad at her, I use it in a derogatory way against her. It seems like there’s more drama having a lesbian mother, but I really don’t care. I’d rather that than a whole bunch of guys around.

MZ: You don’t live with your dad. How does it feel like to grow up with no father?

DB: Well, this is pretty cliché but you really do search for that father figure. The male influence in a person’s life is probably their dad, and I could name a few people who I consider my dad. I think it’s something you always search for and you always want.

MZ: Do you think your mom influenced you in any ways to be gay?

DB: I don’t think she influenced me. I think it was just how open she was. She was open with her sexuality. I could choose whatever I want. That’s why I go both ways. I feel like it’s the person that matters, and not the sex.

MZ: Do you think your mom is a part you being open about your bisexuality?

DB: I guess so, I mean I don’t bring girls home to her, and I don’t tell her that I have a girlfriend and everything, I don’t have her spend the night, it’s just easier to get away with it that way.

MZ: Would your mom understand if you’re gay?

She knows sometimes. She knew my first girlfriend. She totally knew and I didn’t even know that she knew but she accepted it. I denied that she was my girlfriend, but I don’t think she really cared.

MZ: How old were you when had your first girlfriend?

DB: I think I was 13 or 14. She was a grade younger than me. She was my fake mom. We all played house and all had roles, like where I was her adopted baby. I had a dad and another mom and a play uncle. I had my husbands and wives, but then she became my wife. She was exactly like me and she was cool. It was just normal and it was sweeter. It wasn’t like we had to do stuff,.We were together but we didn’t do very much.

MZ: At the moment, do you prefer a girl over a guy?

DB: Actually, I really don’t care. It’s nothing different to me. But yeah, I’d probably like to hang out with a girl more often.