The Lincoln Log

First comes loves, and then comes marriage, then come the divorce papers. This seems to be the formula for romance in Hollywood. Within those first few weeks of dating in Tinsletown, “It” couples are already planning for the walk down the aisle and within just a few weeks they are walking to the courthouse.

Just like our Hollywood role models, we marry quickly and divorce twice as fast. We rush into marriage so quickly but it sees like there isn’t that same sense of love and we don’t take it as seriously anymore. We rush through everything, fast food, freeways, express self check out counters. Now, we seem to be rushing into marriage and rushing out as fast as we can.

Being married just doesn’t seem sacred anymore. Lying, cheating, and the realization that the person you married isn’t whom you thought you loved. How did this fast marriage end so quickly? Maybe if how fast we fall in love. Maybe it’s our endless quest to find that one person to complete us. We search and search for that perfect person and feel like we have hit a roadblock for that perfect life. We hit it so hard that we fall in love with the wrong person. Everything moves quickly and before we know it we are married for all the wrong reasons. Then the only thing to do is to divorce.

Men invented divorce as a resort to get out of a marriage that wasn’t going their way. There was a time where divorce wasn’t even allowed. They stayed in the loveless marriage no matter what because that’s the promise they made to each other. It’s the same promise used today. “For richer or poorer, in sickness or in health as long as we both shall live”; that’s the vow that seems to have a hidden meaning of “for richer or richer, in sickness or in health for as long as this relationship suits me.” If that’s the case, then why are people getting married? Shouldn’t you marry someone you really want to spent the rest of your life with and grow old with?

Even as teenagers we move way too quickly when in love. Within weeks we are saying, “I love you” and phrase like “I can’t live without you “ and “I wish I could quit you” but all those are meaningless when we have used it in every unsuccessful relationship. Most teens end up planning for marrying each other. That’s a disaster waiting to happen. How many teen marriages have you heard actually survive? May I remind you that as teenagers we are selfish and are not responsible enough to handle such an awesome responsibility as marriage. So many teens just end up divorcing.

We should all think about what it means to love each other and to be in a relationship. If you don’t see yourself growing old and watching your children and grandchildren grow up together then its best to not marry that person. If you like living life in the fast lane, then go for that quickie marriage and an even quicker divorce.