You see her sometimes after school, on the weekends, and basically, whenever. The two of you barely exchange words, and everything is rather physical. A few weeks later, you feel like you want to be in a serious relationship, and you try talking to her about it. She refuses, and the physical relationship continues. What are you going to do? “A friend in which you are allowed sexual activity but no true relationship is involved. The benefit is purely sexual. Not to be tied with feelings.” defines a ‘friends with benefits’ a.k.a. casual relationships, courtesy of urbandictionary.com.

In a relationship such as this, there are no established emotional bonds, which causes many problems.?

Staying in a friends with benefits for a long time will eventually contribute a bunch of confused and emotionally unattached adults to our society. Many teens today choose to involve themselves in these types of relationships because it seems easy, pleasing, and involves little or no commitment. However, one person is always more into the “relationship” than the other, and that one person will always be hurt. There are many consequences in being in a friends with benefits, as you will never know how to treat a partner right. You end up learning how to be promiscuous, but you don’t learn how to love them. Girls will usually be called derogatory names, such as sluts and whores, while a guy’s friends will usually look up to them. (And yet, looked down upon by the dating community.)

Seriously, why would you really want to be a part of a friends with benefits? Think about being in a one-sided relationship: it’s messed up. You’re torn up on the inside, and you can’t do anything about it.

Involving yourself in this type of relationship defines who you are as a person – a person whose only way of relaxtion and destressing from difficult situations is through sexual pleasure. Obviously, this is a weakness that you expose, and people will only continue to look down on you.

You will never learn to be emotionally stable, and will have trouble with serious relationships in adulthood. This might not be the case for everyone, but there are several cases in which people are hurt for life.

Personally, we feel that people who are involved in these kinds of relationships are just stupid: why not just be in a real relationship where the other person really cares about you? You’re lowering your self worth by being so ‘easy’ and its just degrading.

What is the real point of having friends with benefits? Are you going to continue this cycle of casual relationships when you’re 30, 40 – 50? Many people don’t approve of this, and if you want to be cool, fall to peer pressure just this once. It’s almost as simple as this: don’t hate the player, hate the game.

The idea of “freinds with benefits” is really a broad term. There are many subtle terms for friends with benefits, for girls there maybe the word slut because you are free to express your love for another without freely without the attachement. other words are “make out buddies” and would you really want to be known as the girl with the make out buddy. That really does reflect on yourself. Honestly would you ever go out with another if you know that they are called sluts by some of your peers and will make out with her “make out buddy” when he or she is sad and needs to cheer up. Then dating that person will reflect upon yourself in the way that it look like you dated a slut, but is that what you really want?

Looking in the long run learning how to treat a girl right is the best thing to a long lasting relationship.Bad habits are hard to get rid of, so try to start off on the right foot.