Let’s pretend. Pretend there is a totally heart shattered, moody, emotional, and over whelmed girl. She’s in desperate need of deep healing. She is then approached by a confident fellow who puts his strong and reassuring hand on her shoulder. Lending on his broad shoulders, she begins to feel relieved. He puts his arms around her and holds her. But this person is neither her prince charming nor boyfriend. There also isn’t any romantic history between them. But who is he? And how is he comforting her? He is merely her friend, who supports her physically. We know him as a ‘friend with benefits’.

In Wikipedia.org, ‘friends with benefit’ is defined as a casual relationship between two people that describes an emotional and physical relationship “without necessarily demanding or expecting a more formal relationship as a goal.” It creates a relationship based only on physical behavior whereas emotions are never connected. Many people believed emotions may be related with physical behavior, which sometimes may be true. Many times, inside feelings may be reflected onto outside actions. But does physical behavior have to relate to emotions?

No, they don’t. Having to acknowledge that many people may slip and start looking at their pal with privileges with more loving eyes, it all depends on the person. It is relevant to how much control a person is over their own body and heart. If an individual knows that they have full control, why not has some fun? People always ask why kiss someone you’re not emotionally infatuated by them? They also say save kissing for it is special moment with someone special. I say, a kiss is only as special as you think it is. It can be a symbol of love, or just merely two lips touching. Sometimes we crave physical attention. Our bodies miss being hugged, kissed, and being cared about. It’s not just your emotions that need to be tending to; your body also needs it.

Being a female, we like to put on a show and deny ourselves of physical hunger. We pride ourselves of not being called slutty, a one night stand or a simple booty call. It isn’t as though, ‘friends with benefits’ are going around making out with every boy they meet. Friends with benefits are two people with a strong enough friendship that both know and respect each other’s boundaries. They both decide and agree on the terms. They have all the physical benefits of a relationship, without having a nagging or over controlling boyfriend.

There are no worries on what to get their boyfriends for Christmas, having the divine right of hanging out with all your guy friends or even flirting around a bit. There isn’t anyone to hold them down. Yet when affection is wanted, it is delivered without any strings attached. The friendship can also be dropped or turned back on at any time. Many girls may feel as though they are being taken advantage of. It is not being taken advantage of or used, when girls are receiving, taking and using boys themselves.

For gentlemen, friends with benefits allows them to relieve their hormones. It lets boys touch and hold a girl without all that clingyness. They also don’t have to waste huge amounts of money on ungrateful girlfriends who never says thank you. Imagine that sensational and hot physical relationship without any whining or bitching. During anytime or any day, boys can call up their privilege pal and feed their physical needs.

It just proves that ‘friends with benefits’ when used right, is a good source of support and enjoyment. It is a convenience to have.